Losing Leah: Halloween

Losing Leah is a special series about being overweight, dealing with moving through our culture in a fat body, and the joys and trials of losing weight and finding health. Halloween as a fat kid is tough. The years that my mom was emotionally able and made my costume were pretty good but were also […]

The Gallery

Recently I had a few spare minutes one evening to wander through a gallery that I’d never been in before. The person at the door, seeing that I was their sole guest and was dressed nicely, explained to me how the gallery had made their decisions about what to hang. And that brought me to […]

Listening

A while back I decided to take a break from dating. Then I dated someone great and hurt him…because my body and I were not ready to be dating. So I stopped. Then someone said “You should date this guy I know.” So I went out with him. And despite his being a decent guy, […]

“That you may do it.” –Moses

For this commandment which I command you today is not too mysterious for you, nor is it far off. It is not in heaven, that you should say, ‘Who will ascend into heaven for us and bring it to us, that we may hear it and do it?’ Nor is it beyond the sea, that […]

Flying Home from Home

Monday, August 31st–Traveling from my home in Albuquerque to my home in Seattle We are flying through some extraordinary clouds tonight between Albuquerque and Phoenix. The pilot took us above them to find smoother air. It was rough going for a bit there and now things are quiet as we try to find our way […]

Truth and Amazon

The truth is… Amazon is just like it is described in the NY Times article. Amazon is nothing like it is described in the NY Times article. It is a soulless dystopia and people cry at their desks. It is a family that loves and rallies around one another in hard times. The environment is […]

On Disappointment…

I’m sitting here…with an urge to write about disappointment because I think it’s important to talk about. And yet…I can’t remember when a word left me feeling more vulnerable than the word disappointment. Like the words loneliness or betrayal, the word disappointment causes a visceral reaction. My stomach knots. My throat tightens. My mind begins […]

How I Get My Way…

I have often joked that I always get my way…eventually. Anyone who knows me, knows that isn’t true. I have faced a lot of adversity in my 39 years and have not always gotten my way. Getting my way isn’t about being selfish and wanting things done only as I like it. It’s about a […]

And then you water the flowers…

Sometimes the world is sad…or scary…or disgusting…or infuriating. Sometimes the world is sad, scary, disgusting, and infuriating all at the same time. And sometimes on those days all you can do is cry and rock yourself for a bit. You might weep for the hatred and vitriol being tossed around between warring sides of a […]

I love you, but…

“I love you, but it’s such a shame you failed at your marriage.” “I love you, and of course it’s not the baby’s fault that you got pregnant outside of marriage.” “I love you, but it would be easier if you celebrated the same holidays as the rest of us and didn’t pray in that […]