One thing you can be certain of on your journey to better boundary setting…fence jumpers! Some people in your life will decide (and it is a decision) that your boundaries are not real and are not meant for them. Many of these people do not have bad intentions, they are just not yet accustomed to […]
This permission slip will bother some of you. We’ve all been given the message that it’s not okay to get angry and that we have to keep that shit under control. And there are definitely people who should keep their anger in check…but those are typically people who have a history of getting angry and […]
David Whyte, Poet
So it’s all fine a good to talk about boundaries in the abstract, but at last we have arrived at an action step…Setting Boundaries. As a reminder, setting boundaries is an essential part of maintaining healthy relationships and protecting your own mental health. Without boundaries, we will find ourselves feeling overwhelmed, stressed, and resentful. Let’s […]
Sometimes it feels like our confidence disappears to the same dark hole that our keys, sunglasses, and that matching sock that you put into the dryer on Sunday have gone. We can wake up one day and be certain that we have something to offer, a unique place in the world, and a golden opportunity […]
Last week I kicked off this discussion of boundaries with an introduction and explained why I thought it is an important topic. Understanding and setting boundaries is an important part of maintaining healthy relationships and fostering personal growth. Boundaries act as guideposts that help us define our limits, protect our well-being, and honor our individuality. […]
What happens after dreaming??? If nothing, then maybe the dream wasn’t for you. But if after you dream, you get excited to take the next step, then by all means, give yourself permission to DO something! Anything. Take the next step. Take a leap of faith. Call on advisors. Build a plan. Map out a […]
What is it you want to do that you aren’t doing? What is it that you want to ask for help with that you aren’t asking? What do you need that you aren’t getting? A coach can help. A coach can ask you the questions that you are afraid to ask yourself. A coach can […]
Me: Have you set any boundaries in this situation? Client: <long pause> NoMe: Do you know what your boundaries are in this instance? <silence> What would be a real dealbreaker in terms of the other person’s behavior? Client: I really don’t know. <even longer pause> And even if I did, I don’t know how I […]
Along the way, I have had to learn (often the hard way) that one of the most vital lessons we must learn is the art of setting boundaries. Setting boundaries is an act of self-care and self-respect that allows us to protect our well-being, maintain healthy relationships, and prevent others from taking advantage of our […]