Good Fences – The Joy of Boundaries

When we think of boundaries, we often associate them with limitations or barriers. However, boundaries are not just about protection; they can bring immense joy and fulfillment to our lives. Boundaries provide us with the freedom to prioritize self-care, cultivate authentic connections, and create a sense of empowerment. In this blog post, let’s explore the […]


Few things are as frustrating as knowing that while you are talking, the other person is planning what they are going to say. We want to be heard…listened to…when we speak. For so many of us, we are listening with the shallowest part of our attention and planning our response with the rest. A wise […]

Good Fences – Managing Fence Jumpers

One thing you can be certain of on your journey to better boundary setting…fence jumpers! Some people in your life will decide (and it is a decision) that your boundaries are not real and are not meant for them. Many of these people do not have bad intentions, they are just not yet accustomed to […]

Good Fences – Setting Boundaries

So it’s all fine a good to talk about boundaries in the abstract, but at last we have arrived at an action step…Setting Boundaries. As a reminder, setting boundaries is an essential part of maintaining healthy relationships and protecting your own mental health. Without boundaries, we will find ourselves feeling overwhelmed, stressed, and resentful. Let’s […]

Good Fences – Types of Boundaries and Common Misconceptions

Last week I kicked off this discussion of boundaries with an introduction and explained why I thought it is an important topic. Understanding and setting boundaries is an important part of maintaining healthy relationships and fostering personal growth. Boundaries act as guideposts that help us define our limits, protect our well-being, and honor our individuality. […]

What are you waiting for?

What is it you want to do that you aren’t doing? What is it that you want to ask for help with that you aren’t asking? What do you need that you aren’t getting? A coach can help. A coach can ask you the questions that you are afraid to ask yourself. A coach can […]

Benefits of Writing

Writing and journaling have some amazing health and well-being benefits…and you don’t have to be a “good” writer to reap the rewards. Among the benefits are things like increased creativity, decreased stress and blood pressure, as well as some significant memory and neurological benefits. In August, I will host a Writing to Heal workshop where […]

Good Fences – An Introduction to Boundaries

Me: Have you set any boundaries in this situation? Client: <long pause> NoMe: Do you know what your boundaries are in this instance? <silence> What would be a real dealbreaker in terms of the other person’s behavior? Client: I really don’t know. <even longer pause> And even if I did, I don’t know how I […]

The Basics

When I left my job last year, my mind, body, and spirit were a broken down mess and I didn’t even know it. I would have said I was a bit tired…but what I was was busted up. My body was angry with me. My mind was a swirl of negativity after enduring toxicity for […]

Change – Step 4

Support I’m currently watching the house on the other side of the street get a massive facelift. As they work on it, I keep thinking “It looks like a new house!” The longer I stare (with a cup of tea from my front porch) the more I realize that it isn’t just a facelift. They […]